Breaking up is hard and heart wrenching and whilst were are feeling pain and the ultimate letdown we should not let this feeling overwhelm us. For those of us who have broken up without closure there is a little exercise you can do that might make you feel better.
Seat yourself in a very quiet area where you will not be disturbed. Ideally have an empty chair or seat opposite you. Shut your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths and permit yourself to relax.
When you open your eyes imagine that you see the person with whom things are left unsaid sitting opposite you. All you do is to try to imagine that they're there, and visualize the person you want to converse with and say to the person what's on your mind.
When you have finished you'll need a response. Go and sit in the other chair and imagine them answering you back. Keep your mind focused on what was said and after you do permit the emotions and dialogue to flow.
Bear in mind that if you consciously say what you wish to hear instead of what you actually hear you're only cheating yourself, nobody else. When they have finished speaking, sit back in your original chair.
Keep up the conversation, moving from chair to chair assuming the opposite person's persona when in their chair till the conversation is finished. Then come back to your original chair and say goodbye to them before going about your business.
This technique is unimaginatively valuable for letting go of pain, guilt and hurt from any style of relationship, not simply romantic relationships. Usually when performing this system you'll be stunned by the answers that you receive from the opposite person.
Then close that door and never look back. Remember if you don’t give him the power he has no power over you.
Now that, that is out of the way here are some things you should think about.
1. Don’t close yourself off from friends and family who love and care for you.
2. Don’t fall for the first character that comes through the door. Rebound romances are just as hard to get over and can leave you feeling more rejected than ever.
3. Cut yourself some slack; don’t take on all the blame for this breakup. There were two of you in this collision of a romance.
4. Try to keep busy, take on some extra work at the office, begin that hobby you never had time for, offer to walk the neighbors’ dog, keep active.
5. Have a girls-only night out, buy yourself a new outfit and relax and try to enjoy yourself.
6. If you should find someone right away take it slow and easy make sure you are ready for the next round.
Remember you are not alone. Time is a great healer, by giving your heart a chance to heal and gain back your strength you will be able to carry on and find the right guy for you.
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